And the adoption saga continues. To recap:
1. Karlie & Riley - foster daughters that were removed from our home in July
2. Shiloh Mercy - our first pregnancy baby, died in August
3. October baby - chose not to accept, birthmother kept him
4. November baby - birthmother kept her
5. December baby "Ava" - birthmother chose another family
6. December baby "Goliath" - and here's his story....
Two hours after we got the call that the birthmother was keeping the November baby girl...we got another call from an adoption agency in Houston (Caring Adoptions) to tell us that they had a birthmother due on November 12 that they needed a family for. They told us that we were first in line for this bundle of joy and he could come any day.
One week after his due date, Baby Boy (whom I lovingly referred to as "Baby Goliath") was a whopping 11 pounds! At her doctor appointment that morning, the birthmother was told that the baby's lungs weren't quite developed yet and needed more time. They moved her due date to December 18!
We got this email from the agency (Caring Adoptions in Houston, Tx) this morning:
Dear Charis and Duffy,
We got a call from the birthmom yesterday. She went underground and had the baby on 11/26 without telling us. CPS is involved and the social worker is not being very cooperative right now with honoring her adoption plan in the first place. It's a mess. If they do come around and allow us to place the baby, one of our families emailed yesterday to tell us that they are open to any race and we will give them priority. The baby is in NICU and we don't yet have any information as to whether he is sick or just being monitored. I will of course let you know if for any reason our family decides not to take the placement. -Sue Lemmon, Caring Adoptions
Duffy and I are shocked that:
1. The baby was born and the agency had no clue until a week later.
2. After promising us the baby, they are giving it to another family.
We're just shocked at their lack of integrity or sensitivity. Lesson learned...be very careful which agencies you work with. This would make it our 3rd birthmother that has backed out of an adoption plan and kept the baby.
Wednesday, December 1, 2010
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This is super shady with the broken promises. Boo for that!
ReplyDeleteI literally feel my heart contracting...aching. I discovered your blog tonight, and after talking to you this evening, I look forward to hearing what comes of it all.
ReplyDeleteChristina Walker
Have you ever though that perhaps God doesn't want you to have any children; and would rather have you two focus on Him instead? I firmly believe God is sending you a message with all these stumbling blocks such as miscarriages, infertility, rejected adoption requests, etc.? Don't you think the fact you keep coming back for more with your "little quest" might be a bit selfish on your part?
ReplyDeleteA lot of people would like to have pleasures and joys in life. I, myself, want a million dollars. I want a big fancy house, a fast sports car, a recession-proof job and a good-looking spouse who makes love to me at my beck and call. But I have none of these things; but you don't see me crying about it on the Internet. Why? Because after a lot of soul searching and long talks with God, I realize that stuff is never going to happen. And if it does happen, it would be in HIS timing and not mine.
I think you asking people for the sum of $30,000 to fulfill your own desire of adoption a child is more than selfish, it's unholy. Let's say you do have a child at age 35 and you spend your life with that child until your death at age 85. That's 50 years with this child. But then, in death (just like everybody else), you spend INFINITY years with God (provided you have a real relationship with Him). I think God is telling you that His time is more valuable and important than just 50 little years of self-gratification.
Some people just aren't destined to have children, or get married, or be a millionaire or have supermodel looks. You just have to appreciate the things in life that God brings you and prepare yourself for the afterlife that awaits you through Him.
I'm not trying to be vile or mean. I'm just stating the facts; and telling you the Truth when no one else will. You don't need to know my name. It's not important; and I'm not important. But you do need to think about GOD and what HE wants you to believe is important. For starters, I think it's about getting to know his son Jesus Christ. I've been a believer for over 20 years; and there is still so much I don't know. Perhaps maybe you two can enjoy this time as just a married (or even divorced) couple to find out.
I don't know how I'm just seeing this. But I can't believe that either. I'm so sorry to hear that!
ReplyDeleteAnd I am even more shocked and now angry that someone would write what they did above!!! The Bible definitely calls us to take care of orphans and widows, so I think you two doing this is a WONDERFUL thing. And giving others the opportunity to share in this joy with you by giving to the adoption fund lets others share in this duty we have as Christians to adopt too. Thank you for doing that!! Brendon and I are excited to be on the journey with you guys! Don't let anyone tell you different... even believers (like the one above) get sucked into what the world says sometimes... don't believe it! You are doing a great thing! Too many people put off adoption. I admire that you all have chosen this route.
Ashleigh,
ReplyDeleteThank-you so much for your sweet friendship and Godly wisdom. I appreciate your support on this journey and your love for the Lord. I'm just saw the anonymous comment today for the first time - so I spent some time thinking and praying about it and just posted my reponse. I'm not really sure who reads my blog - so it saddens me to think that someone who doesn't believe in God could read that and be put off from having a relationship with Him. I chose not to delete it - but instead to address it. The "christianity" this person is claiming to speak in the name of - is not that of MY loving Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Much Love, Charis